2023-04-05 ~ Kinky Talks 43: Suicide exists!

(if you haven’t yet)



Layers in our brain by P Vroon

Suicide does not ‘happen’. It is a choice.
It is a choice as a way out… in times that appear to be hopeless, at the time. In times that seem to have no choices.
Not only for the young bi’s, gays, transes, lesbians, kinksters, nor just for the old.
People come across this ‘choice’ even in the bloom of their life and die.

Remember Dan Savage and others’ initiative
“It gets better!”

Dead because they were choosing that road actively, or because they’ve gotten careless in their alcohol- and drug use. The result is the same.
And the ones that are still here, we’ll never know how we might have helped them. Because we did not have the conversation, there isn’t any growth anymore, no way out of their situation anymore. And after, we’ll talk about this in ceremonies and speak about our sadness over a lost life. We’ll talk about it in ceremonies that help us to carry on. And we’ll probably say: “if we’d only known” or “if they’d only known how many have gathered here now, they wouldn’t have felt so freakishly alone that they wouldn’t have …”

This Kinky Talk is about the fact that we fucking know! The figures are there!
So let’s please talk about this. Admit that our fun, gay, kinky lives have ‘that side’ too. So we know to just talk, even if we don’t know how to, even if we don’t know what to say.
This Kinky Talk is here to save hopefully maybe one life. But maybe we learn to talk about suicide and thus maybe save many. Because the existence of just one person who is understanding and openminded, someone who acknowledges the existence of the pain. Just one person like that might prevent suicide in something like 25% to 50%. We’ll never know the exact numbers. But let’s talk anyhow…

Adalberto & Hans

They are 1 person
They are 2 alone
They are 3 together
They are 4 each other

Helplessly Hoping, Crosby, Stills & Nash

If you are interested to chat about these events: join the Talk!
If you are interested to talk about this yourself as from your own perspective, please contact Adalberto or Hans



Registration is until 5 pm, and the email with the link will be sent by 7 pm at the latest on the date of the Talk

To our new listeners: if you mute yourself you don’t run the risk of Zoom automatically switching toward you and exposing you on our Youtube. (we will shut down the recording later on, to have an open private discussion)


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A Kink Aware and openminded (relationship) coach. That does not mean you have to talk about kink, but at least here you don't have to be silent about it.

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