2023-04-05 ~ Kinky Talks 43: Suicide exists!

(if you haven’t yet) Suicide does not ‘happen’. It is a choice.It is a choice as a way out… in times that appear to be hopeless, at the time. In times that seem to have no choices.Not only for the young bi’s, gays, transes, lesbians, kinksters, nor just for the old.People come across this ‘choice’

2023-03-01 ~ Kinky Talks 42: Kinky, & Community events (packing for)

Darklands, a rather unique event to attend and to travel to. Easter Berlin will be next. These are big events, that do take some planning. But smaller events are thriving too, these post covid and post-monkeypox days… Is bigger better? Or just different? Adalberto We talked about it already but what is it? How should

2023-02-01 ~ Kinky Talks 41: Young and Kinki – The Next Gen

Young and Kinky – we give “The Next Gen” the mic. The Voice of our Youngsters in the Scene. I hope that the older generation knows its place and cares to listen 😀 Because should we as ‘old farts’ be talking about “The Next Gen”? I guess not! (I remember I found that rather distasteful

2023-01-04 ~ Kinky Talks 40: Drop, drop, drop

After the new year’s parties, after the first reality checks of our own new year’s resolutions, and after last year’s pandemic, it seemed kinda logical to come up with this Kinky Talk’s theme: “Drop drop drop!” 😉 Almost every sub AND most Doms know that feeling of “drop” two, or three days after great events,

2022-12-14 ~ Kinky Talks 39: Chemsex in the Scene

Chemsex is an easy subject to ignore… until you can’t ignore it anymore. That is why Adalberto and I like to highlight the fun, the risks, the slippery slope, the highs, the lows, the point of no return, the rock-bottom and that swampy sinking feeling when you notice you should really start to react to

2022-11-09 ~ Kinky Talks 38: Kink Aware Therapy: Inspiration for Therapists & Kinksters

On the lookout for an interesting topic for the 9th, I was browsing through my PowerPoints and came across some PowerPoints I presented to psychologists and doctors for the Kinky Clients in their practice! And I thought it might be of interest to Kink Aware Therapists and the people who are their clients. Regulars to

2022-10-12 ~ Kinky Talks 37: Community: What’s in a name?

Yay! We are growing and getting more and more well known guests. (will we ever be able to top this???) These three engaged kinksters will talk ever so serious 😉 about their personal experiences of being an ambassador/sash wearer. A lot of people don’t really understand: “What is that… with those ‘Mr’ or ‘Ms’ or

2022-09-14 ~ Kinky Talks 36: Spot – The answer is PROTOCOL

Spot is a well-known presenter and teacher living poly and with BDSM relationships both ‘up’ and ‘down’ the D/s and he is going to talk to us about Protocol… Limit something to make it bigger, the thrilling paradox of BDSM. Spot on protocol In this kinky talk, Spot will take us through his experiences with

2022-08-10 ~ Kinky Talks 35: Hans – “Whipping with Pride!”

We know Hans as a coach and we’ve talked about the fact that he does workshops on different BDSM techniques but we did not talk much about that up till now. That is going to change on the 10th because he will be giving the workshops on the 4th (that day that you would expect

2022-07-06 ~ Kinky Talks 34: Kinks and Spirituality

We’ll be talking about the scientific ideas of Mirco Costacurta. He’s our guest: Mirco is a PhD, student in Social Science at the University of Padua (Italy). Sex-positive and LGBT+ activist for Arcigay with inside knowledge about Kink and BDSM Mirco is a student investigating the world of kink. He investigated kinks and we are

2022-06-01 ~ Kinky Talks 33: Longing Relationships… (long term, long distance)

We’ll be talking about relationships, especially “long” is the keyword for this discussion: Luckily we have guests with practical knowledge about these subjects so we are happy to invite Spot and Pupsapphire to answer questions from their personal viewpoints. Let’s talk about those who are longing for ‘long-relationships’ and how to manage that? What do

2022-05-06 ~ Kinky Talks 32: Darklands Fr.6pm – KinkyTalks Live

After more than 30 successful online events, Hans & Adalberto bring their Kinky Talks Live to Darklands! Kinky Talks Live!For both newbies and seasoned kinksters, they will discuss the psychology of kinks and our search for ‘extremes’, taking and giving consent and fun, and fun versus fun-ctional substance use & kinky sex. We love your

2022-04-06 ~ Kinky Talks 31: Darkrooms-Lightrooms… Fetish photographers talk

We will be talking with D81 en PAN about Fetish Photography… (you can find them on Instagram: @d81photos (www.d81photos.com) & @thedarksideof_pan (www.gianlucapanareo.com/thedarksideofpan) If you have questions let us know…Registration is until 4 pm, and the email with the link will be sent by 7 pm at the latest. We are not sure if -in this

2022-03-02 ~ Kinky Talks 30: Kink & Shame

We are going to talk about a politically, and sexually hot topic: shame!… Hans will give a short intro about kink and shame, and the effects of being shamed in our culture and also within the scene. And we want to give room to personal experiences with shame, things we want to share. When and

2022-02-02 ~ Kinky Talks 29: Polyamory in Practice

Polyamory sounds nice… but how do you put that into practice. How do you do poly? Hans will say a few things about poly. While Juan and Alex will tell us about the reality of being in a polyamorous relationship. Poly is like mono… but with a few extra balls in the playing field Hans

2022-01-05 ~ Kinky Talks 28: Your bucket and f*ck-it lists for 2022

We might be more thriftily when writing our bucket-lists. We lived thru another year of social distance and most of us live. So let’s be proud of each other… Hindsight is 2020 2021 then is: “looking up the Arse?” Hans, he’ll be telling a bit about new years resolutions and trying to prevent that in

2021-12-01 ~ Kinky Talks 27: HIV – PrEP – U=U and more

The date: is the 1st of December, this talk…You know that date, we hope: World AIDS day. We think this is the date to discuss not so much a sexy subject, but a sex subject And of course, HIV does not mean AIDS anymore. But there is a lot to be said about sex and HIV.

2021-11-10 ~ Kinky Talks 26: Kink Activism

Note the date: the 10th, not the 3rd of november, this talk. Adalberto is all over the world (literally) so we should be really happy to have him for ourselves the 10th 😀 (usually it’s the 1st wednesday…) Today on 11/10 (the out-of-your-closet-day) we announce that, on the 11/10th, we are going to talk about: Kink

2021-10-06 ~ Kinky Talks 25: The Psychology of kinks

“Wickedness” is a myth invented by ‘good people’ to account for that curious attractiveness of ‘others’. Oscar Wilde (quotes by me) In this talk, we’re going to dive into the kinky mind and hear about the most recent research from a psychological perspective on people who practice kinks. We will be guided by Karina to better

2021-09-04 ~ Kinky Talks 24: From Sex to Chems and Back

Sex and Drugs and Rock and Roll (or any other kind of music) have always drawn toward each other. And rightly so! Especially for people who like kicks and sensations and who like to party and play, they will have their encounters with drugs (and alcohol is a drug too). And there is a lot

2021-08-04 ~ Kinky Talks 23: Puppies and their bone(r)s

Puppies and their bone(r)s Pups Play!Yet puppy-play is a serious fetish, these days The world of pupies is far away from our own ‘normal’ world for a lot of us kinksters. But in the last years this kink is really booming. And the playfulness of this kink is be really appealing. Docile dogs, beauty-dogs, bratty

2021-07-07 ~ Kinky Talks 22: A deep dive into sub space…

There are a lot of ideas and opinions about subspace. It has to do with pain it has to do with humiliation, it has to do with role-play, it’s all about endorphins in the brain et cetera et cetera. Let’s be clear, there is no final answer yet in science for it simply has not

2021-06-16 ~ Kinky Talks 21: Monster toys, Monster fun? (Karin – Mr Provios)

We feel that we are not stretching it when we both think we can hope for a really deep discussion with a hole lot of assploration. We think that, when we are be prepared well for some really in depth discussion about  ways to go the distance we perhaps know how to go where no

2021-05-26 ~ Kinky Talks 20: Consent is Sexy!

Consent is always a hot topic and we need to talk about it. Especially now that we are crawling out of our covid-enclosures onto the stage of meeting people in the flesh again.Us kinksters, we want to abuse and be abused… without really abusing anyone. We want to have fun with stretching holes and limits

2021-05-05 ~ Kinky Talks 19: The world of gimps and drones

KinkyTalks 19 Wednesday, 5th of May: 20:00 – 21:15 (Amsterdam time!) The world of gimps and drones (by Adalberto & Hans) People choke on the thought of being a gimp 😉 The world of gimps and drones: imagine you’d be in rubber enclosure being (ab)used or being enjoyed visually. Gear, rules, differences, masks, anonymity and