Nice guy with a kinky mind, bringing people together

Adalberto started exploring his kinky interests in the leather scene fifteen years ago and in the last years he has been particularly active in the rubber scene, nationally and internationally. He holds the current Mr Rubber Netherlands and Mr International Rubber titles.

He has been a driving force in establishing rubber social events in Amsterdam and Rotterdam: safe spaces for rubbermen and rubber-curious to meet and to grow the community. He worked actively on the visibility of the Dutch Rubbermen: in 2019, he led for the first time a group of rubbermen at several Pride walks, from Amsterdam to Zwolle.

Visibility for acceptance and understanding.

Adalberto is a ballroom enthusiast (PoseFX anyone?), and likes to play with gender stereotypes. Talking body positivity and emancipation, Adalberto supports the NoMoreC project for HepC prevention (do check: for some very easy tips!), and he helped establishing the Miss Rubber Netherlands title with the first election planned for spring 2021.

During the COVID-19 pandemic, he promoted online rubber social events as a way to keep social togetherness in times of physical distancing. And he now started with this Kinky Talks project to improve our shared vocabulary about kinky relationships, boundaries, and more.

My motto: keep shining!

If you want to know more, here’s a recent interview:

What I Do

My Motivation

Adalberto: if I look back at my about 15 years in the world of kink, everything I have learnt and done was pretty much based on trial and error. Sometimes things go well, sometimes a bit awry, and sometimes more seriously wrong.
It can be as extreme as true physical or psychological abuse, but things can also go wrong during a one-night stand, when the partner things he is “pushing some boundaries”, but he is actually already past them without asking. What do you do in such situations, while hormones are all over the place? I don’t know about you, but I have never learnt about kink at school 😉

I’ve long wanted to do something in this mind space of healthy kinky relationships, but I didn’t know exactly what and how. Until my path crossed with Hans’ earlier this year: he listened to my story and said: “This is so important: I’m going to help you”. And after several brainstorm sessions, the Kinky Talks are a reality!

We believe the best fun can be had when a basic framework is agreed upon with the (play) partners, because then you can let yourself go “mindlessly” within this safe space and have fun. We truly hope Kinky Talks can contribute to your own fun experiences!


The best fun can be had when a clear framework is agreed upon with the (play) partners, because then you can let yourself go “mindlessly” within this safe-space and have every kind of fun.

a friend

We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift…

Marilyn Monroe

If homosexuality is a disease, let’s all call our bosses: “Hello. Can’t work today, still gay.”

J Douwe
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